What is dating violence? When we talk about dating violence
we refer to young unmarried couples who have abusive relationships where
someone is getting hurt. Many times it is the female being hurt and other times
it is just generally violence where both are getting hurt. It is a great
problem for all races and economic levels. Some examples of physical abuse are
slapping, biting, kicking, throwing things, shoving, choking, and many others.
Other forms of abuse include intimidation or threatening, isolation, keeping
the partner away from his/her friends, brainwashing, and deprivation with
holding necessities.
If your wondering why this is going on you have to look into
multiple categories. Some say we just live in a violent society where men with
muscles are natural aggressors. Others believe it’s an issue of weaker taboo,
alcohol and drugs, lack consequences meaning the consequences are not enough to
stop the behavior, and cycle of abuse starting at routine moving to tension
then violence and then making up.
Why do they do it and why does the victim stay? Some abusive
boyfriends feel as if it is their right to control and dominate “their” woman.
Other times it’s a person who has never learned a healthy way to control “bad”
feelings—rage, anger, frustration, and jealousy. The biggest reason according
to statistics is the abuser has grown up in a abusive home where violence was
demonstrated often. They do a great job of playing the cool collected guy in
public that everyone wants to be with, thus attracting women especially ones
who love to be noticed, but once the relationship goes sexual many males
believe the female is his possession.
Women suffer from a cycle where the first incident leaves
her in shock and stunned. The male then convinces her it will never happen
again and begins abusive patters that slowly become part of the relationship.
Note almost all abuse starts only after sex has become part of the picture. The
women then begins to lose self esteem after verbal abuse and is to afraid to
tell anyone about her situation.
Sadly many cases never get reported, here is what you need
to do if you have been abused. Acknowledge your situation and know it’s not
healthy, TELL SOMEONE, gain some distance from abuser, get medical, legal, and
emotional help, and begin a path towards recovery. The 24-hour domestic
violence hotline is 1-(800)-799-SAFE.
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